On Self Care

Chronic Pain

I don’t like the term self care.

I know a lot of young people who use it, expecting that the responsibilities they’re shirking will just go away if they use it (or mental health day) as a code word. And then I have to be like, okay, but your paper was still due last week.

It also strikes me as a fairly privileged thing to say. When poor people take time for themselves or buy themselves that coffee as a treat, we call them lazy. We tell them they wouldn’t be poor if not for that coffee. We begrudge them necessities (you don’t need a phone! a car!), so of course we don’t tell them to take care of themselves, except when we’re saying we won’t be helpful at all; then, it’s a harsh command.

But maybe I just don’t like the term because it doesn’t motivate me to take care of myself.

It’s so hard to relax that it stresses me a little to think I have to do it.

Over the years, though, I have gotten better at it. A little.

I remind myself that I’m the machine that has to keep working. This machine needs food, exercise, sleep, rest, friends.

Part of what’s hard is that my schedule changes every ten weeks, so I have to recalculate each term–when can I commit to walking? How can I get enough sleep when I have an early class and a late one (and those other three)?

But I’m trying to make positive changes.

I’m taking myself to more plays and movies.

Some days, when Thoth comes to me and asks me to lie down with him, I give in. (He asks by climbing on to the back of my desk chair, moving down to my lap, and then trying to climb up the front of me.)

I’m realizing that I need a day each week when I don’t have anything social to do–hopefully one in which I don’t teach, either. On this day, I will be able to really focus on my work, so the days that follow are easier.

I need more sleep than I’m getting. So I need to get to bed earlier. I’m going to have to say no to things that keep me out late. This will make it difficult to do some of the cultural stuff I love, to see some of the friends I love.

But I’m bone tired and achy all over, and I gotta keep getting through the day.

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Alabaster at CapStage

Movies & Television & Theatre

Alabaster, written by Audrey Cefaly & directed by Kristin Clippard, is playing at CapStage until Feb 23rd.

This production is part of the Rolling World Premiere program, in which new plays are performed on many different stages in the same year, which allows the playwright to get feedback from lots of audiences and allows us to showcase new writers.

In Alabaster, a big city photographer comes to photograph a deeply scarred farm owner in Alabama.

But this isn’t The Odd Couple–their differences are ultimately small, while what they share as women who’ve had immense losses is what really counts.

One of the charming aspects of the show is that the two goats on the farm are played by humans. (They beautifully capture the goat personalities I saw when I was briefly growing up on a farm.)

The performances were great–I especially loved Amy Kelly as Weezy.

I don’t know how I feel about the ending (and I can’t tell you why because I don’t want to give it away), but I’ve been thinking about it for over a week. In fact, I can’t stop thinking about this play.

Which means it’s definitely worth seeing.

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Rally for Teachers–Noon, 2/3, Mrak Hall!

Politics and other nonsense, Teaching

Dear Readers,
Across the UC, people like me are now working without a contract. The UC came in with an insulting proposal at the last minute (after nine months of us trying to work all this out). They offered a new title for the old guard and a couple of tiny raises for the new people. In return, they would get the right to get rid of us very easily (and without enough notice to find another job), creating a system where our jobs are constantly in turn-over, among other things.
Would UC admin ever sign an agreement saying they would be hired for a quarter or a year in a “self-terminating contract”? Of course not.
So we are rallying this Monday–tomorrow–2/3–at noon, on the steps of MRAK Hall.
Please come show your support.

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My Union is Fighting for Me

Politics and other nonsense, Teaching

My union has been trying to get a decent contract since last March. Our current contract expires THIS FRIDAY.

I’ve written already about how the UC system wants to take our offices away. The sad news is that keeping our offices isn’t even in the top three goals for our current contract.

We want better pay (ex: when the tenured faculty vote to give themselves all a raise, we (the colonists who get no votes) must get that raise too. Last time, the tenured people gave themselves 4%–we were given 3%).

We want more job security (the UC system wants to turn us all into adjuncts, who can be fired at whim, with no real warning, no matter the experience, awards, etc.).

We want to stop being told to do unpaid labor, to stop being punished for it when we resist.

If you’re around, you can come see what’s happening and show your support.

All are welcome to attend bargaining 10-5 at Gladys Valley Hall in the Vet Med center. We’ll be in the following rooms:

Wednesday, 1/29  Room 2030
Thursday, 1/30  Room 2071
Friday, 1/31  Room 2030

Be sure to mark your calendar and make plans to attend our Stand Up for Teaching! rally on Monday, February 3. We’ll meet at the steps of Mrak Hall at noon to show UC management that we’re united in fighting for a strong contract that values the work of all lecturers.

If you have questions, please email us at ucaft2023@gmail.com.

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Why I Don’t Like Gangster Movies

Movies & Television & Theatre

A few years ago, a student tried to change my mind about gangster movies.

“They’re all about family–and loyalty!”

“No,” I said. “I didn’t go into the business my family wanted me to. I was a screw up and a disappointment in their eyes. But they didn’t kill me. In a gangster movie, if you don’t do what the patriarch wants, you get killed.”

Gangster movies are about power. Toxic masculinity and violence are celebrated. For people like my student, watching the films probably enables a fantasy about having that kind of power, inspiring that kind of fear.

Today, in my quest to watch all the Oscar nominees, I’m watching The Irishman. Like most movies of its ilk, it’s well done. But it’s reminiscent of all the other gangster movies. It’s the same actors in slightly different makeup.

And I’m wondering, if these movies were about African Americans instead of Italians, would white people still manage to see them as positive representations of families?

Or would people see these as the tragic stories of violence and abuse that they are?

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What Our Young Academics Know About Nonacademic Sources

Teaching

Teachers, if you haven’t asked your students about nonacademic sources, I advise you do so.

Because I don’t want to be in this dispiriting place alone.

A few years ago, Melissa and I started working on a textbook to teach our students how to find, evaluate, and ethically use sources.

We knew a lot of knowledge was lacking, both from decades of teaching and from the current political crises.

Using our draft chapters has shown me how desperately needed this book really is.

Because now I quiz the students on this subject.

One of our chapter is on evaluating nonacademic sources; it explains the difference between academic and nonacademic, talks about when nonacademic sources are necessary in their writing, discusses how to evaluate news sites, warns about reliance on Google and Wikipedia, gives examples of satire news being mistaken for real news, and lists four kinds of sources that just shouldn’t end up in their writing, unless their paper is about unreliable sources.

(We argue that one should not cite 1) other student papers one finds on the internet, 2) cheat sites, 3) sources with no discernible personal or agency author, and 4) religious texts as incontrovertible evidence in what should be secular arguments.)

My reading quizzes ask students to tell me the difference between academic and nonacademic sources and to name one of the four forbidden types of nonacademic sources they should avoid.

The students who do the reading do fine, of course.

But here’s what many of the upper-division students who skip the reading say:

What’s the difference between an academic and a nonacademic source?

  • Nonacademic sources are written by people who don’t know what they’re talking about.
  • Academic sources are the things our library has. Everything else is nonacademic.
  • Academic sources are reliable. All nonacademic sources are unreliable.

What is one of the four nonacademic sources you should avoid in your writing?

  • blogs
  • news sources
  • film reviews
  • social media posts
  • this is a trick question–you should never use nonacademic sources in your writing

After I take up the quizzes, I have questions for those students. So you can never cite news? If a pediatrician writes a blog about common problems at checkups, can you not use the info just because it’s a blog? How can you write about foreign policy under Trump if you aren’t allowed to ever cite a Tweet? What if you need census data? Will you just have to skip that information because it’s nonacademic? How are you going to write that film paper if you can’t cite nonacademic sources, since films ARE nonacademic sources?

Fellow teachers, if you haven’t had this conversation with your students, I recommend it. It will be eye-opening on both sides. The information generation just isn’t getting enough instruction on how to filter information. If you want Melissa and I to start the conversation for you, our book is coming out soon.

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Geek Accessories

Misc–karmic mistakes?, Teaching

I got myself a Harry Potter backpack at the start of the year. It tore almost immediately, and the tear is getting bigger.

Just this morning, I was thinking about how I should go back to my very old, but not torn, boring backpack.

Then:

Student A: Is that Harry Potter backpack?

Student B: I noticed it on the first day. It’s how I knew I had signed up for the right class.

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Davisville Simpsons Interview

Simpsonology

This week, I had the honor of appearing on Davisville again. We got to talk about one of my favorite things–The Simpsons!

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On Teaching Cabin in the Woods: We Are Not Who We Are

Movies & Television & Theatre, Teaching

“Wow. That’s brilliant. I never would have seen that,” several of my students exclaimed after the day’s discussion leader had them rewatch the “set up the kids” scene at the beginning of Cabin in the Woods. The discussion leader pointed out that the jock wasn’t dumb, the virgin wasn’t one, etc.

And the other students were flabbergasted.

Which made me flabbergasted.

But it’s happened each time I teach this film. This class is designed for Film/Media Studies majors, and so my heart breaks when they can’t actually read a film correctly.

To watch Cabin in the Woods and miss that the kids are not actually archetypes, which a surprising number of my students do, means that they misunderstand the initial attempts at characterization, all of the clear references to the designers affecting their behavior and cognition, and one character constantly trying to understand what’s happening.

“And since when does Curt pull this alpha male bullshit? I mean, he’s a sociology major, he’s on full academic scholarship, and now he’s calling his friend an egghead?”

I used to teach this film last, but this term, it will be our first. We’re going to talk about it Wednesday. I even told the students why–not about what exactly other classes were misunderstanding, but that other students were managing to majorly misunderstand significant plot points.

So we’ll see how they do.

When I started teaching Writing in Film Studies a few years ago, I was surprised by how many horror films made it onto my viewing list, since I don’t really like horror films.

Or maybe I don’t like “typical” horror films. And I will admit that I really dislike the serial killer ones. Give me aliens, zombies, vampires, gods–I can escape. Watching regular men kill regular women doesn’t give me catharsis. It leaves me feeling upset for days.

Cabin in the Woods is one of the best of the horror films I love. I didn’t really know what it was going to be about when I headed to the theatre in 2011. But I knew it was a Whedon thing, so it wasn’t going to be ordinary.

The theatre was almost empty. A woman who appeared to have a nice buzz came in and sat down right beside me. Halfway through the movie, she yelled, “This movie is fucking awesome.” The other seven of us in the audience just laughed. Cause it was true.

I was disappointed that Goddard, the director, chose to open the way he did, since it gave away so much of the twist away. But I also know that moviemakers don’t worry too much about spoiling things for professional geek overanalyzers. And it didn’t spoil the fun.

I watched the film again over the weekend, flinching as one character makes out with a wolf head (ick–so much dust!–even though I know it’s actually sugar).

And I found myself even more mad than usual that the virgin has to suffer to save us. Especially when one of the people she’s saving is the married professor who seduced her and then broke up with her via email. Why can’t we ever have to sacrifice that guy?

And I watched the documentaries about the effects–the approximately 100 practical monsters they created, the little details like the glowing coals in the reanimated mother’s belly.

And this time, I found a new favorite line. When I get my students’ first screening response on Wednesday, I hope they present them in the right way: “This we offer in humility and fear.”

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We’re on The Jeff Rubin Jeff Rubin Show!

Simpsonology

Denise and I had the opportunity to be interviewed for a great podcast.

You can listen here.

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