A lot of men tell me they’re frustrated because
- women don’t write back
- women won’t agree to a date after a nice conversation
- women flake
- women stand them up
- women aren’t honest in their profiles
- women have too many conditions for dating
- women don’t start conversations enough
- women are hypocrites who don’t practice what they preach
Guys, women are people. So are you. Almost everyone does this.
I sometimes try to start a conversation with people who have “liked” me, only to be met with silence.
(One guy just sent a message back to a first message I sent 11 months ago!)
I have proposed a drink after a day or so of messaging, only to be met with silence. (Two months ago, a guy kept sending me long messages (average word count: 750). There were days and days of this. He scheduled a date, asked for a reschedule, and then ghosted me.)
Last week, I got stood up for a date. (Not for the first time.)
Last year, a guy arrived to a date, told me he had to move his car, and then never came back (he wrote later, saying he had a migraine, but never asked for a do-over).
Some men I meet don’t look like their profile pictures.
Many men have been shorter than they claimed to be.
There’s a guy on POF who has sent me the same cut and paste opening twice. Within three days. And I had answered him the first time. I asked him why he didn’t have a profile picture when he had set the following conditions for someone to message him:
“To send a message to [redacted] you MUST meet the following criteria:
Female
Lives in United States
You must have a picture to contact this user.”
Many men search for and say they want “thin”; I don’t contact them to tell them what a beautiful person I am inside.
Many men search for and say they don’t want a woman who already has a child; I don’t contact them to say, “but mine is an adult.”
Less than an hour ago, a guy blocked me after I told him we were incompatible. What were we incompatible about? He said he didn’t believe in sex before marriage.
To all the guys who are struggling out there, we are struggling too.
