I should really just start ignoring conversations that begin inauspiciously.
Yesterday, a guy opened with this:
“Hi this is Garry looking for friendship first if we click we can go from there
“Hello dear are you seriously interested to get together soon”
I tried to patiently explain that I can’t be interested in someone before I even exchange messages with them.
Then, I had to explain that I would not be giving him my phone number.
“Tell honestly since how long are you on this dating site? Did u talk any one face to face”
Serious lack of empathy here–some guys think that if you won’t meet them right away, if you won’t give them your phone number right away, that you aren’t serious about dating. Do their demands ever work? Are other women saying yes with no preamble?
And then: “When u had dated last time seriously as romantic way”
Me: I am not sure what you mean. Are you asking when I last had a date or when I was last in a relationship?
“When you had dated last time sexually? And also when u was in relationship???”
Me: It’s rude to ask someone when they last had sex.
I broke up with my last boyfriend three months ago.
“Any way on first date normally Just to hug kisses or more then that you likevto do honestly?”
Me: Look, I know you aren’t trying to make me feel uncomfortable, but you are, so I am not going to continue this conversation. I hope you find the right person for you.
He didn’t get that he was being obtuse or creepy at all. Based on the grammar/esl stuff, I figure there are cultural differences. But come on. A woman says it takes a little conversation. But the only conversation you want to have is about when she last had sex and if she puts out on the first date? In what culture is that NOT creepy?
Gosh. I wonder: is there an entry on me, and if so, what does it say. We had pizza and the meeting was pleasant, but that’s from my perspective. I think I did better than this guy; at least I sincerely hope so. I