A message I got from a complete stranger this morning (his profile consists of 2 pictures, but no descriptions of himself, what he’s looking for, etc):
“Good morning sweetheart iam sam iam Australian indian man from auzziezz land liveing in elk grove iam a pilot for Hawaiian airlines do you care too chat on the phone what’s is your number cell phone number hun here’s my number [XXXXXXX]”
Me: “Hi. I don’t give strangers my phone number. In fact, OKCupid warns people not to, since it’s unsafe to do so right away.”
Sam iam: “Well I will be honest iam a indian Australian man iam a pilot for Hawaiian airlines 549 people trust me so here my [XXX XXXX XXX]
Me: “I’ve been on this site for 10 minutes this morning. Three new people have messaged me so far. They would all like my number. Should I give it to every guy who messages me today?
Sam iam: “Haaaa
“I have gave u my number it’s up too u have nice day”
Me: “I’m just asking you to have some empathy about what it might be like to be a woman on a dating site. Put yourself in my position–you have two pics up–the rest of your profile is basically blank. You tell me your job and ask for my number. If you walked up to me in a bar and only said, ‘hi, I’m a pilot. Give me your number,’ I wouldn’t. So why should I do it here?”
