Here’s a series of short vignettes, most of which need (and deserve) no comment.
Man A messaged me, asking what I was doing over the weekend. He then asked for my number. I said I didn’t feel comfortable giving out my number that fast. A: “Okay. You take care. Adios.”
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My profile says I’m looking for someone who is “liberal (especially socially), smart, sexy, secure in yourself, funny, appreciative of smart and funny women, and a nonsmoker. No long distance, please.”
Man B: Hi ! Everything said and done, how do I know if I am sexy or not !
This is precisely one question that bothered me while reading your profile details. And though I should not be messaging you because I smoke, still, I could not but ask this question. Again, how does one know if he/she is sexy?
I felt that you are not the type who defines sexiness simply by the amount of muscles or curves , hence felt like asking this . Thanks 🙂
Me: I’m sorry you were bothered by my request that a man be sexy. As you noted, there is no good way to define that clearly. However, that’s true for all of the other words I used. I want a man who’s smart, who’s funny, etc. Is there just one clear definition for those words? (I feel that they’re just as subjective as “sexy.”)
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My profile also says I don’t want to get married or to live with someone.
Man C: I am a little curious about the partner thing. You are an attractive person but how come you aren’t looking to get married?
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A guy messages me several months after a previous message: (Man D): If you’re still interested in getting to know one another, I’m interested. Although I see you as a great deal smarter than me, don’t know how we’d get on due to that.
[I’m trying to figure out if any woman would be allowed to say that, ever.]
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Man E, whose profile said he was already “seeing someone,” messaged me with this: I’m job interviewing out of California, won’t be around much longer, so fuck it, have a little fun.
